Wednesday, December 14, 2011


Yesterday evening, I was going thru my FB news feed, and soooo many folks were talking about the newest episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta.  I was confused, because I knew I had just watched the birth of KJ on Sunday.  Time flies, but I know I didn't just miss out on an entire week!  So, around 10ish, I tuned in, and it was a new episode!  I told my mom to make sure she tunes in as well.  I have to make sure she stays in touch with what I'm watching.  LOL! 

So, Sheree finally goes to court for child support from her ex husband.  But this fool files a motion saying that he wants the support reduced because he doesn't make as much money as he did when the order first started.  He told Sheree to her face that he wasn't going to pay her anything.  I think that's the boldest move any parent can make.  Knowing goodness well that have already been ordered to pay, and haven't been doing it for over 4 years is just plain ole stupid! 

Okay, so this morning, I woke up thinking about this.  I've been on both sides!  I was that child that didn't understand why child support wasn't getting paid.  Now I'm that parent that doesn't want to take the guy (can't say what I want to, but I think I should)... Now I'm that parent that doesn't want to take that asshole to court.  Thankfully we have an agreement, but he also knows that if he doesn't follow thru with the agreement that I'm going to do what I have to do. 

Regardless of how you feel about the parent that's taking care of your child, I don't understand why that's affecting the way you are supposed to take care of your child.  Children need to 1. see their parents consistently!  2. know that they are loved! 3. be taken care of by both parents.

There's just sooo much that could be said on this topic.  I told my brother a few months ago that if you can't afford to have any kids, you need to not have sex!  The only birth control that's 100% is abstinence!! 

At the end of the day, the child involved is the one that hurts the most... I learned this at church and its soooo true: "Children spell LOVE - T.I.M.E."  If you love that child, spend some time with them!  But you need to also make sure that child is being taken care of!  If you don't want anyone else in your business, do what you are supposed to do before being told to do it!


  1. so ok...about sheree, can we just throw out there that she only married him for $$$ and nothing more...seriously!! im sure he had azzhole tendencies BEFORE the kids but she figured since he's an athlete she gonna be set for life (did she really think she'd get 7 figures lmaaooo) she said he retired early so his income could be at a certain amount to where SHE couldn't get shyt...come on now! im sure he got funds stacked away somewhere (i peeped his mercedes S class last season) but he's dead wrong to just blatantly say "i aint givin u nothing" wow really...

    now i dont agree with any man NOT paying child support i also agree with kandi's side on how its not worth it to go back n forth while she's able to maintain the family..not countin sheree money but she not hurtin since she rockin berkin bags n buying porshes (even though her astor martin for snatched last year) and she building houses (while livin in an apt), as mothers we gotta do what we gotta do regardless, one monkey dnt stop no show honey!! In the end, no greatness or happiness comes to men who dnt take care of their responsibilities and for that, single parents are blessed wit more than enuff to provide!

  2. I some what agree with what you are saying... because Sheree is doing what she wants to do, she's not hurting... she hasn't been hurting for 4 years, but that doesn't mean that dude shouldn't support his kids! If he's doing this, the next step he's going to take is not seeing his kids regardless! That's not fair! It's clear to anyone who watches the show that his son is being affected! Sheree even said that he's closer with her older daughter (that isn't his) than with his own kids.

    Bottom line, he was told to pay child support and he hasn't. How disrespectful is that?! I know a "Sheree", and she's doing what she has to do. That monkey isn't stopping her show, but that doesn't mean that he shouldn't be supporting his kids.

    I can't comment on their life before, because before RHOA I didn't know who either were! LOL! I don't know how long they were married.... all I know is the now. And he's a trifling mother effer for doing that to the kids.

    Children are a lot smarter than what we give them credit for...