Yesterday evening, I was going thru my FB news feed, and soooo many folks were talking about the newest episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta. I was confused, because I knew I had just watched the birth of KJ on Sunday. Time flies, but I know I didn't just miss out on an entire week! So, around 10ish, I tuned in, and it was a new episode! I told my mom to make sure she tunes in as well. I have to make sure she stays in touch with what I'm watching. LOL!
So, Sheree finally goes to court for child support from her ex husband. But this fool files a motion saying that he wants the support reduced because he doesn't make as much money as he did when the order first started. He told Sheree to her face that he wasn't going to pay her anything. I think that's the boldest move any parent can make. Knowing goodness well that have already been ordered to pay, and haven't been doing it for over 4 years is just plain ole stupid!
Okay, so this morning, I woke up thinking about this. I've been on both sides! I was that child that didn't understand why child support wasn't getting paid. Now I'm that parent that doesn't want to take the guy (can't say what I want to, but I think I should)... Now I'm that parent that doesn't want to take that asshole to court. Thankfully we have an agreement, but he also knows that if he doesn't follow thru with the agreement that I'm going to do what I have to do.
Regardless of how you feel about the parent that's taking care of your child, I don't understand why that's affecting the way you are supposed to take care of your child. Children need to 1. see their parents consistently! 2. know that they are loved! 3. be taken care of by both parents.
There's just sooo much that could be said on this topic. I told my brother a few months ago that if you can't afford to have any kids, you need to not have sex! The only birth control that's 100% is abstinence!!
At the end of the day, the child involved is the one that hurts the most... I learned this at church and its soooo true: "Children spell LOVE - T.I.M.E." If you love that child, spend some time with them! But you need to also make sure that child is being taken care of! If you don't want anyone else in your business, do what you are supposed to do before being told to do it!