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Okay, so this morning, I jumped on "FB" before waking up my little ray of sunshine... and there were SOOOOOO many folks going on Tiny. Okay, so here's a little background (according to me) for all of those folks that don't know who Tiny is. She started out in the 90s in a R&B group, Xscape. She was a cute little thing, and to me, didn't get to sing as much as the other members... at least not on some of their most popular songs. Fast forward to a few years ago, she isn't in the "light" too much anymore, but we hear word that she's with T.I. T.I is a rapper from GA (as is she)... but he's the type that doesn't automatically put his business out there. Folks can't see why they are together. Folks are saying that she's so much older than he is. Folks are just hating! So about 2 years ago, Tiny had a reality show with her friend Toya (who is Lil Wayne's daughter's mom). On this show we got to see who Tiny really is... and with that, folks started commenting on her looks... "Miss Piggy" is the most used term to describe her. Okay, I'm not going to act like I didn't see her face and say she's Miss America... something definitely looks different about her. I think she's had some kind of work done, but hey, who am I?! So last night, the season premiere of TI & Tiny was on VH1. I unfortunately didn't get to see it, because I had some mommie duties to finish up. And by the time the little one went to sleep, I decided to go to sleep as well.
So... my question to all is why are looks so important in a relationship?!
I remember when I was in my teenage years my BG used to tell me to not bring no dark-skin guys home. She would say things like "what are your kids going to look like?! ...you gotta think about that!!" At the time of course, I wasn't thinking about having any kids with these fools! The one guy that I did bring to the house to meet her was a light skin dude with pretty eyes... and he was a complete jerk! But she adored him... because of his looks. Looks had nothing to do with his attitude! Another light skin dude with pretty hair and pretty eyes that I talked to when I was younger was abusive! He was on his schools wrestling team, and thought it was a good idea to do those wrestling moves on me. SMH! And not only that, but he told me that I was acting real gay because I wouldn't sleep with him. i.e. another jerk!
Back when we first heard that Beyonce was with Jay-Z, of course folks had something to say about that... "what does she see in him?! He looks like a camel!" And now that she's pregnant with his baby they are saying and photoshopping pictures of Beyonce with a baby faced Jay-Z... (camel face).
I don't understand people... and I guess that's what my problem is. I'm always trying to figure out what the big deal is about certain situations. So many chicks want a dude like TI, saying they look so much better than Tiny, but don't understand what it is that he really sees in her. I get it! I know what he sees in her. He sees a beautiful person that loves him, regardless of what it is that he's going thru. So many dudes want a chick that looks like Beyonce, but they don't understand the love that she has for Jay-Z.
Beauty is only skin deep! I learned my lesson about 10 years ago... your looks can be taken from you so fast! I was in a car accident and had the hugest lump on my forehead possible! When it finally started to go down, it settled in my eyes... so I had 2 black eyes for about 2 weeks or so. If I were to show you the picture, you would think I was battered woman. That's how I felt. So from that day forward, I said I would appreciate my looks, but also realize that they weren't everything. People change. They gain weight, lose weight, get older... things that make your looks change. But if you are a beautiful person on the inside, that's what matters!
...of course most of the folks that had something to say about Tiny's looks were the single folks. OUCH!